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Sick, Happy Dog...Is It Time?

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    Sick, Happy Dog...Is It Time?

    I'm new here, looking for an honest opinion about my dilemma....


    I have a 12 year old yellow lab, she's been with us since puppy hood and happens to be a very sweet girl.

    Almost 2 years ago, she had a trachea collapse, so we took her in to the emergency room where they gave me 2 option, euthanize or surgery, of course we asked as many questions as possible to be absolutely sure that her quality of life would not be hindered, the vet assured us that she'd recover, but we would have to feed her soft food for the rest of her life, not a big deal, so $4000 later, she was home.

    During her recovery, my wife gave her too much of a sedative, so of course, we took her back in, they told us she was fine, but during the visit, as they were checking her, the technician felt something in her abdomen, a sonogram later, it was determined she had a tumor in her belly... not curable... so we would now just wait for her to some day, simply die. I was furious, because I had just gotten myself into debt to save her the day before, but what's done is done....

    A few months ago, she developed a growth near her ear canal, it looks like a sponge with tiny bumps and it bleeds, not profusely, but at a very low rate, it has grown to about an inch.... The vet has told me it is a tumor, (though after long hours of research, I believe it's called polyps), he said only a specialists can remove it, and that's where I arrive at the "dilemma".... I'm still paying for the surgery she had, and simply can't afford another bill of this magnitude.... she seems happy, although she coughs sometimes when food gets into her lung due to her trachea being permanently open, but she doesn't show signs of distress... The growth has to be washed on a daily basis or the blood dries and smells like a dead animal...I have to wash her and she hates it, a cotton ball has to be in her ear canal at all times to prevent any discharge going in.

    I don't know what to do...Euthanasia is probably best, but I feel like I'd be killing her, cause she's happy, she eats, she drinks, she greets us when we get home, the only thing she hates are the daily washes...I can't afford to help her and I'm crying as I write this , cause she's been an angel all of her life, when I worked nights, she kept my family safe, she protected them.... I just can't kill her... but I can't help her either.... the vet can't help her not does he know if this growth has spread to her nodes.... I'm lost... Please give me your opinion....
    Thank you all for taking the time to read this. Take care.

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    my sympathy goes out to you. my last dog developed testostorone cancer at 14 . ( maybe because although he wasnt a sire i didnt see the need for this op). anywayhe got cancer and had the op but by then it had spread to his liver. being such an old dog , i decided not to put him through any more vet treatment and he had only care management and pain relief, eventually passed in his bed asleep at 16
    they love you despite what you do

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    sorry about auto...... testicular
    they love you despite what you do

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    As long as she still has a good quality of life its not time yet. When the time comes you will know, she will let you know that she is ready. Until then enjoy her, love on her and make what time she has left great for all of you
    he is your friend and protector, he will love you unconditionally, you owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion

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    I don't think it is time yet. If you have only taken her to one vet, seek a second opinion. You will certainly get more time with the dog (what is her name?) if another vet offers solutions that will not cost a fortune and make your adorable girl miserable. Because she is happy except when you wash her, there is no reason to fear now is the time based on that alone. She has a good quality of life, right? That's the most important thing right now. When she is truly feeling sick and uncomfortable more often than not, read a thread I started in the Rainbow Bridge section. She will let your know.
    Rescued is my favorite breed. Don't shop, adopt!

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    I'm sorry to hear that your dog is going through so much, my heart goes out to you and your family. I understand the situation financially, serious surgeries and treatments at the vet can often run into thousands of dollars. Is the tumor in her belly cancerous? Like they say sometimes, when it rains it pours, seems like it's one thing after the other for your poor girl.

    I think if it was my dog, and at this point in time it doesn't seem like you'll have too much expense to care for her daily, I'd keep doing what you're doing. I don't advise putting her to sleep if she's still happy and eating, etc. It would be like killing her before it's really time, and I don't think you'd ever forgive yourself for that.

    If she had no more quality of life, had a cancer diagnosis, was in bad pain, etc., then it would be a different story. Like Linda said, just love her and care for her as best you can for now. She loves you and is part of the family, she can't speak for herself, but I know she wants to stay by your side as long as she can. Please don't make any hasty decisions.

    Some day in the future when she's gone, you'll speak of all the money you had to spend on her health, but you'll feel comfort in knowing you did all you needed to for her. Look in her eyes and you'll see love and loyalty, don't put that light out until there's no other choice. Then you'll know it was what was best for her, and both of you can rest peacefully.

    I'm glad you posted here for our thoughts. I have had to put too many of my pets to sleep over the years for various reasons, but I waited until it was obvious that it was time to say goodbye. I really feel for you right now, please keep posting and let us know how she's doing. Welcome to the forum.

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    I feel bad for your dog...the poor baby but I agree with what's best said and I wouldn't put her to sleep yet either. My only suggestion is when you clean her try to make it more of a pleasant experience for her. I would talk sweetly to her and give her a treat afterward. You may be already doing this but if not it's worth a try.
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