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Losing a dog, and the one left

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    Losing a dog, and the one left

    i have a 5 year old Schnauzer who still acts like a little puppy! We also have a much older (around 12) poodle/schn. that has always been there with the younger one. The older female was my wife's dog before we were married, and we getting a divorce and she wants to take her dog with her. I am keeping the younger Schn.

    My concern is for him as he really looks to the older female (i believe) as mother role. He seems most of the time like most Schnauzers i imagine to just be playful happy go lucky, see where life takes him type of attitude, but im afraid when she is gone what that will do to him. During the day i am at work and while at home they usualy just lay around all day separatley until it seems like one of us wants to play. I mention this bc i would imagine that he would maitain that behavior after shes gone even. I guess im thinking mentally for the most part. I love our animals Very very much, and im wondering what i can do for him to help with this transition.

    I know one option is too look at another Schn pup for him to bond to. It would almost an opposite role where now he is the older more senior animal, i think he would love it! But with the mentioned divorce costs, and expenses will be an isse.



    Also he will be basically the only family (of my own) im left with, so i would hate to introduce a new animal with the possibility sickness or disease and then infecting the only companion i have left.


    I also have a cat gray tabby and she and the younger schna do play but i know its not the same as the bond between the dogs.


    Any ideas, this is really sorta tearing me up inside. I'm concerned for him and me cause again i love all our animals very much.


    Thank you very much!

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    I'm assuming that you'll be taking care of the gray tabby, as well.

    I think what worries me more is your wife's schnauzer as she will be looking for her old companions.

    Now, don't worry too much. The fact is, your 5-year-old will have a companion even if you are gone. However, if you're overly concerned with this, you can hire a pet sitter just for the first days of your separation so someone can keep a watchful eye on them.

    Do you go for walks with him? If you could move the walks during early mornings so that he'd have some of his energy spent for the day, that would greatly reduce the energy he uses in playing with the older one. Since you have not mentioned of anxiety issues when you guys leave the house, I am assuming he doesn't have any.

    Try giving him a Kong to keep him occupied as well. In order to provide mental stimulation during your absence, a Kong filled with healthy treats can be an effective tool to keep him occupied.

    All I can say is, take it one day at a time. We often underestimate our dog's ability to adapt to situations.

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    If you are gone most of the day, I think that getting a new puppy might not work out well. Puppies, or even just a young dog, might not be trained enough to leave alone all day, and if they play, then you might come home to a trashed house.
    Also, it might be hard on your dog to accept a new dog right now. His best friend just left, and you are now his best and only friend. Puppies crave a lot of attention, and if you start playing with the new puppy, then your Schnauzer may feel unwanted from you as well, so it could make the whole separation thing even worse for him.
    Maybe, if you just watch him for a while, and see how he reacts to the Schnoodle being gone, then you can deal with it in the best way. A stuffed toy that he can sleep with would be a companion for him, and leaving a soft radio going when you are gone might help keep him company as well.

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    We currently have a Schnoodle (older) and the younger Schauzer, a siamese and a tabby, the siamese and the schnoodle will be leaving at some point. What's great about it is that they all play and bond really well togethor. But in the current situation thats also a bad thing cause two of them will be gone.

    I agree about introducing a new puppy, too soon for that.

    I think i'll just watch for awhile and look for any behavioral changes before making any decisions. My spouse has not seemed too concerned with the schnoodle or the siamese but i know at some point she will take them. To be honest i have asked her to leave them as long she can/wants bc i am worried about their level of care when they leave the house.

    Thank you,

    Clark

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    I think the very best thing for you to do, is wait and see - you may find your pup copes just fine without his companion. I re-homed an ex-breeding Shih Tzu last year, to a home with an older Shih Tzu already as I was adamant she would not cope without another dog to rely on. Six months after going to her new home, the older Tzu passed away and according to her adopters, she has thrived on her own and coped brilliantly - you never can predict how a dog will react to situations and they are often more resilient than we give them credit for.

    I'd also like to echo what a few others have said - if you work full time adopting another pup is really not advisable - a puppy should not be left alone for more than a couple of hours a day and needs your time and attention to learn house training and other manners. If you think you're going to struggle financially, a second dog (pup or not) is really not a good idea - you need to be confident you have the time and finances to offer a pet what they deserve.

    I don't think you need to worry about infections or disease should you decide to go ahead and get another dog - if your pup is up to date with vaccinations, he won't catch anything & if you adopt from a responsible breeder/shelter, the new addition should have had a full health check and all relevant vaccinations anyway.

    Have you any friends, family or neighbours with dogs? Maybe you could buddy up on walks to give your pup a chance to play and socialise with other dogs, even if only for an hour or two a day?

    I think you need to think very carefully before getting another dog given your circumstances, and give your pup a chance to adjust to being an only dog. It is inevitable that there will be an adjustment period for you both, and it may take him weeks or even months to fully find his feet.

    I wish you both the best of luck, whatever you decide.

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    Thank you those are kind words.

    I have put the idea of another dog on hold for now with reasons being aforementioned. I agree with the responses. I think the best thing is to see how he does first. When we really love and care for our animals its easy to project our fears, anxienties, and emotions onto them. Maybe the real question is how will i handle missing her and the siamese.

    Henrich will most likley be fine hey he'll still Isabel the gray tabby to boss around!!! He's such a Schnauzer. I tried to upload a picture to my profile of him but it is not showing in my posts for some reason.

    Thanks again for all the responses,

    Clark

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    Ha there he is!

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    He looks a very handsome boy, I love his blue bandana. You are both very lucky to have each other, dogs really are the best friends we could hope for.

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    You may find that Heinrich actually likes being an only dog, if he is very attached to you. My Chipper is totally attached to me, and he would miss the other dogs if something happened to either Red or Tootsie, but his main focus in life is being with me, and he really doesn't even think of himself as a dog, I think. He is beside me all the time, and pretty much ignores what the dogs do. However, Red and Tootsie are buddies, and Tootsie follows Red around when she goes in and out of the house, so it all depends on the dog.
    Since he still has Isabel to keep him company while you are at work, I think it will probably work out just fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by clarkking View Post
    i have a 5 year old Schnauzer who still acts like a little puppy! I am keeping the younger Schn.

    My concern is for him as he really looks to the older female (i believe) as mother role. He seems most of the time like most Schnauzers i imagine to just be playful happy go lucky, see where life takes him type of attitude, but im afraid when she is gone what that will do to him. During the day i am at work and while at home they usualy just lay around all day separatley until it seems like one of us wants to play. I mention this bc i would imagine that he would maitain that behavior after shes gone even. I guess im thinking mentally for the most part. I love our animals Very very much, and im wondering what i can do for him to help with this transition.

    I know one option is too look at another Schn pup for him to bond to. It would almost an opposite role where now he is the older more senior animal, i think he would love it! But with the mentioned divorce costs, and expenses will be an isse.

    Also he will be basically the only family (of my own) im left with, so i would hate to introduce a new animal with the possibility sickness or disease and then infecting the only companion i have left.


    I also have a cat gray tabby and she and the younger schna do play but i know its not the same as the bond between the dogs.


    Any ideas, this is really sorta tearing me up inside. I'm concerned for him and me cause again i love all our animals very much.


    Thank you very much!
    It's so nice that you're concerned about your dog's feelings. I'm a Schnauzer lover, and have had Standards for years now. I don't think you should be very concerned to the point of replacing the dog. Also, don't underestimate the relationship of a dog and a cat. I lost my female Schnauzer awhile back, and my male (Hans) was VERY close with her...and he grieved for her like my husband and I did.

    Sometime afterward, we bought a male Manx kitten, and now the both are best of friends, and keep each other company when we're out of the house. Time heals and pets are very open to change. I know I'm guilty of it, but sometimes we amplify our emotions and subject our pets to them...many times things are more simple. They just want company, care and love...no real specifics.

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